We are the Sandwich Family. No, our last name is not Sandwich, but it is what we actually are now: a grown daughter, Kay, who moved her family to live on the same property as her mother and father, MaryRob, and Harv.
Here are the layers of our Sandwich: MaryRob is the parent/grandparent, R and B are the children/grandchildren, and the Sandwich Filling is Kay and her husband, C.
Harv, the patriarch of the brood, passed away suddenly in March of 2014. He and MaryRob were married for 50 years. He is greatly missed and our experiences losing him and learning to live without him have opened our eyes to a whole new range of topics.
Kay is the primary author of this blog, with some guest writing and editing from MaryRob. Kay’s business, Facilitator on Fire, helps multi-generational business teams listen to each other, make decisions and follow through on their plans. MaryRob is a retired librarian and newspaper editor/journalist who now spends her time volunteering for church and teaching folks of all ages how to knit and crochet.
If you look at the dates on our posts you will notice that we took a break from this project for over 4 years. We will explain this at some point soon. Currently, the plan is to launch a new version of the site and bring everything up to date beginning in February, 2019.
In this blog, we tell our story. How we became the Sandwich Family*, what it is like to live together as a multi-generational family, our successes and struggles. We also talk about what we are learning regarding the issues families with older adults face every day: financial planning, health care, aging in place and privacy, just to name a few. It is our hope that other families can learn from us, in a time when caring for elder family members is so complicated – and often stressful and political.
We can be reached at: kay at facilitatoronfire.net.
*While this blog is certainly intended to be a forum about the full range of our experience, we have enough to talk about without invading the privacy of our families! So, we will use initials or nicknames when we want to talk about them, unless they have given us express permission otherwise.